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March 2nd, 2015

“A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy.”

There are honestly not that many times when I am at a total loss for words.

Today is one of them.

Please read this article in the Daily Telegraph today first.

And then weep.

And then shout and rail.

Have you read it?

Can we now discuss it?

 

Let’s be quite clear about one thing, shall we?

That some raping lowlife bastard, fighting for his wretched life spews sexist claptrap is one thing. It is reprehensible but he is, let us not forget, a lowlife raping bastard.

(And no, actually, I am not in the least apologetic for my language.)

You do all remember the unspeakable horrors of the Delhi gang rape, don’t you? And the depraved cruelty and violence inflicted on a poor young girl?  Not to mention the total apathy of Delhi drivers who apparently slowed down, gawped, and drove on.

So, yes, actually, I mean every angry word I use about her rapist.  Who is still alive.

Can you stomach the thought of this man & his twisted, evil logic?  “When being raped, she shouldn’t fight back. She should just be silent and allow the rape.”

 

 

But as for A.P. Singh, quoted in the story, whom I had blogged about 18 months ago.  Lawyer.  Father of girls.  This is what he said then:

“…if my daughter was having premarital sex and moving around at night with her boyfriend, I would have burnt her alive. I would not have let this situation happen.  All parents should adopt such an attitude.”

Seems like time has not softened this man’s views.  And I quote:

“The lawyers who defended the gang in court express similarly extreme views about women who venture out at night. In a previous televised interview, lawyer AP Singh said: If my daughter or sister engaged in pre-marital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight.”

In the BBC documentary, he adds that his stance has not changed: “This is my stand. I still today stand on that reply.” “

 

What remedies do we, as a society, have against a man like this? He is a lawyer, for crying out loud, so, one would imagine, a wee bit more educated than the low life raping bastards he is defending.

I know I have lawyers amongst my readers (my clever sister reads my blog, but she is a British lawyer) so won’t some of you who know the laws here in India please tell me what actions can be taken against A.P. Singh?

Can’t he be arrested for inciting murder or some thing?

I presume nothing has been done since my original blog post 18 months ago?  Or being optimistic, was A.P. Singh speaking from jail – locked up because of threatening to burn his daughter?

 

I await the outrage from our politicians, especially our PM.

I await condemnation of these statements.

 

In the meantime I weep, and am at a loss for words.

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12 comments to “A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy.”

  • utterly horrible. think even the taliban might be too good for them. one could start a petition on causes i expect. something on the lines of send the lawyer to jail for threatening his family. or should it be something more positive — like our bodies belong to us ….

  • Read the DT report myself just now – also horrified and incredulous, that there are still such attitudes – I totally agree with your comments.

  • Appalling as they are, such attitudes must be common in our society. Most of India is still deeply feudal, casteist and heirarchical in its thinking. Where the tensions of economic inequalities coincide with the perceived threat of gender equality, as in our cities, rape becomes an instrument of male power, a kind of expression of rage and frustration at the way things are. Young men are frequently brutalised by those in authority and they in turn brutalise those they think should be subservient to them.

  • Oh good grief – what can I say? Actually, nothing – because I’m sure my words would be dismissed as those of a decadent Westerner who doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I know which culture I’d rather belong to, though…

  • I read this article also, unbelievable!!!

  • Truly appalling. How will things ever change in India while anyone holds such repellent opinions?

  • Appalling is the word for it. Truly sickening.

  • So presumably the rapists were inviting gay rape by wandering around at night? I’m surprised they took that risk…………

  • I have no words……..

  • s roy

    Hi D D
    As long as i remember there was a boy with that girl (Nirbhaya) he was badly beaten up but nobody talked about that. Everybody only concentrating about girls but nobody cares about boys …..why so!.do people think that brother/father/friend are not trying to save their loved one(girl). I think Boys or girls should not go anywhere where they do not feel safe …. One day I was in the market and one person was killed in a crossfire. And there was a small media report. If the person were women then everybody will shout. The weaker one always beaten by stronger one.strong women weak husband nobody cares.everybody will tell that husband to “manup”
    just go for this video——https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlFAd4YdQks
    About premarital sex, I think my parents will throw me out from my house ….. we are not allow to have sex before marriage because of Indian culture!!!!
    Sorry for my poor english 🙂

  • christine

    Dear Subhasish, thank you so much for your comment. You make a good point. That brave young man is forgotten. The whole episode was too awful, including the shocking apathy of Delhi drivers, who didn’t nothing to help, we are told. And now there is all this controversy about the BBC programme. I am going to write about this too, and will welcome your thoughts.

  • Claude Bahout

    OMG, Christine, minds will never change in India then? Or is the situation worsening?
    Meanwhile, in France, India is still synonymous with peace and love.
    Feeling awful.
    See you soon, love.
    Claude

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